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Tuesday, 24 April 2018

Learning to Love Myself

She's A Gentry

I never imagined I’d write a post such as this; having never felt like I could really offer any advice on feeling confident and loving yourself but here I am!

I've never been an overly confident person. To my close friends and family they know me as a bit shy with new people, I can stumble over my words when I’m nervous and not always feel like I can truly speak my mind but something this year has changed.


The physical

I mentioned in a post back in February that I was taking the time to look after myself in a few ways such as eating healthy and enjoy quiet time instead of booking myself up to the brim. The outcome of that has been relaxation and weight loss which I am so happy about. I’ve lost 1 and half stone very gradually since the beginning of the year but with losing weight I have gained so much confidence in myself and in turn I am falling back in love with my body. 

She's A Gentry

It took me a while to realise that food wasn’t making me feel happy anymore. What started out as treating myself had become an everyday occurrence and in turn I’d started to eat away at my sadness with food to only realise that it was making me feel worse. I've since re-trained myself to eat well and treat myself when its worth it and in turn my body is thanking me for it. 

I know weight loss isn’t for everyone- it won’t fix everyone’s body issues nor will it fix the rest of your life but for me the benefits have been small but mighty and really empowering. I finally feel comfortable in clothes and can wear clothes I want to that make me feel good about myself and dare I say it sometimes even sexy! I’m now cringing at saying the word sexy but being able to wear clothes I feel good in and that express who I am and portray me how I want to be portrayed has done nothing but wonders for my self confidence and esteem which in turn has made me come out of my shell with my personality and express that too! I wore a cropped top and trouser co-ord the other day and didn’t feel the need to tug at it or suck my tummy in for the first time in years and without meaning to sound boastful, I honestly can say that I love my body right now- my curves, my shape and I am happy. 

learning to love myself

The Mental 
Like practically everyone on the planet, I have had periods of struggling with different emotions over the years and in the last couple of years my self confidence had taken a real knock. I’d started to worry about having an opinion on all sorts of topics, with my main concern being that people would dislike me or I’d offend them for how I felt or what I believed in. My worst fear was they would say something mean or shout at me! I think with the birth of The Prosecco Sessions podcast and with feeling more comfortable in my own skin, I’ve let my guard down and realised that actually people aren’t going to scream at you for having an opinion. (Unless of course they’re totally mental and I tend to steer clear of those types of people!) If you’re speaking with friends, family or any decent type of human being they generally respect your opinion even if they don't necessarily agree with it. You’re allowed to have an opinion. This is all very self explanatory I know but in my mind I never had the confidence to speak out or be heard. Accepting that I have a right as a person to say and feel what I want to feel has given me a new found feeling of happiness and love for who I am and have become.

Loving Yourself 

This is the part I find really tricky to put into words. I think what I’m trying to say is that if you get back to basics and find out what makes you tick, what makes you happy, what makes you unhappy and allow yourself to be who you are- you will be much happier as a result and love yourself in turn. You’ll feel much more comfortable and confident in your skin and love your own little traits. No one is perfect and I'm not expecting anyone to love every single part of themselves, that's impossible but at least love the things you really think are awesome about yourself and embrace those aspects in every way, shape and form. I have been embracing my creativity, my love of listening and learning and looking after my body and mind.

love yourself

This is quite a waffley post.... I don’t really know what exactly it is that I’m trying to say but I wanted to put it out there and let you all know that loving yourself is important, it can be done and it's definitely a learning curve.

I'd love to know your thoughts below!





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